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Best Laid Plans For V-Day

22. January 2011

So you're single. Rather than spending "Singles Awareness Day" aka S.A.D. staying in and watching a Lifetime movie of the week, why not take advantage of what is in fact the BIGGEST “hook-up” day of the year for singles?  Not only is it the best day to meet someone, Valentine’s Day is also the best night to go out in the city because it’s the one night of the year you’re almost 100% guaranteed that the “singles” you’re meeting are actually single.

Here are some of my dating tips on things to do on Valentine's Day so that you’re actually looking forward to V-day as a single instead of joining in on the pity party.

1.  Pay For Play. Research Valentine’s Day Singles Parties and local dating events on-line.  We’re throwing two major Valentine’s Day singles parties the weekend before Valentine’s Day so that singles can ideally find a date at the event that will take them out on a first date on Valentine’s Day.  These dating events don’t have to be super expensive and are a great way to meet singles that are also clearly looking to meet someone.  If you’re more of a shy, introvert, make sure to look for a party that is more structured and offers activities like speed dating, dating games, or ice breakers so all of the pressure isn’t on you to go up to people and start conversations on your own.

2.  Girls Night Out.  If a dating service that offers singles events isn’t your scene and you’re looking for a more “organic” way of meeting someone, call up your favorite wing woman, get dressed up and do dinner together somewhere fabulous. Post-dinner, hit some local singles bars and lounges for drinks.  Several singles lounges and bars will be offering “ladies night” drink specials for Valentine’s Day and knowing this, single, savvy guys (the kind you want to meet) will be showing up in droves.  Keep in mind when deciding whom to recruit as your wing woman that you DO NOT want to have more than 1-2 women come out with you.  A group of women (3+) can be intimidating, 2-3 women is still approachable while at the same time not seeming desperate that you’d be hanging at a bar solo on Valentine’s Day looking to meet someone. 

Also keep in mind who you are recruiting to come out with you.  The last person you want to invite is your "Debbie Downer", next-door neighbor that is going to bitch and moan all night about how you guys are going to be single for the rest of your lives! 

If you’re looking to have a good time and are seeking attention, perhaps you shouldn’t invite your hottest girlfriend to come out with you.  “Rachelle” may be a good friend and all, but think about how you feel when you’re out with her.  If you feel invisible and like you’re always second choice with all the guys when you're out with her, then maybe Valentine’s Day isn’t the night to bring your Brazilian supermodel friend out.  The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result, I’m just saying!

If you’re looking to meet men on Valentine’s Day here’s another hint…don’t hit the bars with your "gay husband".  Everyone is going to think you guys are together which won’t help either of your causes!  Trust me, it took me like eight years of living in NYC to figure that one out.

If you don’t have a single gf to go out with be pro-active and find one.  Post a platonic ad on Craig’s List looking for a single wing woman to go out with on Valentine’s Day.  I’ve done this before and definitely met some super cool women, some of which I’m still friends with.  My dating agency also offers a  "wing woman" speed networking event where you can meet 10-20 women in one night, one of which who could potentially be your new BFF and Valentine’s Day date.

3.  Milk It! Valentine’s Day is one of the most commercialized holidays ever.  Just because you aren’t in a relationship doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take full advantage of all of the promotions and discounts made available to couples.  Simply recruit your favorite wing woman, "gay husband" or platonic guy friend to take advantage of all of the “couples offers”.  Book a “couples” massage, facial or manicure/pedicure together.  Many restaurants will also be offering amazing tasting menus and special promotions on Valentine’s Day.  As a single gal you definitely want to take full advantage of these types of Valentine’s Day offers.  Use the money you would normally be spending on a significant other and splurge on yourself and/or your friends. 

 

 

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NYC Men Clamour For Curls At Kinky New NYC Speed Dating Event

10. December 2010

NYC-based dating aservice OnSpeedDating.Com in partnership with NaturallyCurly.Com recently hosted its first-ever “Curls Gone Wild” Speed Dating event on Thursday, December 2nd, 2010.

Dennis Reilly (36), a New York firefighter was one of the first single men to request that OnSpeedDating add a “curly” speed dating theme to their constantly-growing portfolio of themed singles events.  “I sent an email 3 months ago,” says Reilly.  “I love confident, curly haired women and am happy to see it’s finally happening”. 

Several recent requests for this particular event by curl aficionado NY singles, like Dennis, clearly counter the singular voice of Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger’s constant “curl bashing”. “It’s not even about straight versus curly anymore,” says NaturallyCurly.Com Co-Founder, Michelle Breyer.  “It’s about women embracing their natural beauty.  Patti Stanger is a giant step backwards in terms of female empowerment.”  Contrary to Stanger’s obvious misconception, NYC men respond positively to women with curls. “We actually had a wait list for men wanting to get into this event,” explains OnSpeedDating.Com Co-Founder Carmine Di Re. 

“I’m going to admit that I typically do blow-out my hair straight on a first date,” said single girl, Michele Jones. “As women, we’ve been pre-conditioned by the media to believe that men want women with straight hair.  I was so excited to see a singles event where I can actually be myself and know the guys are gonna like me - curls and all!”

Thursday night’s event quickly reached its goal registration of 15 men and 15 women ranging in age from 24 to 46. The Watering Hole, a Gramercy mainstay, featured three-tiers of cascading two-top tables and romantic lighting.  Each table was adorned with a number, dating pamphlets, pencils and plenty of sponsor-provided Sweetbreath breath freshener, ensuring daters would breath-friendly throughout the night.

First-time speed dater and recent California transplant Thomas Holmes, (24), heard about OnSpeedDating's multitude of theme-specific events through their guest appearance on Howard Stern.  “I find curly women to be fun and sexy and like to think of their wild, curly hair as an extension of their extremely outgoing personality. There are so many gorgeous women here tonight I am really psyched.”

The evening started off with singles checking in around thirty minutes prior to the event start.  Informal mingling over drink specials gave the men the initial opportunity to marvel at the abundance of cascading curls, while a few of the women swapped hair styling tips with each other.

The speed dating began at 7:30pm once all of the single men and women had been seated in pairs. The chime of the bell signaled each couple to begin their three-minute "date".  Many were relaxed, a few were nervous, but conversation, curls and drinks flowed all night and smiles were contagious.  With every chime, the men moved to the next table until they had the chance to meet all 15 women in attendance.

In support of the confident curl girls who ventured out on such a cold December evening, DevaChan Salon and Deva Spa Co-owner Lorraine Massey made a surprise appearance with a $250 DevaCurl gift basket in tow to award to the woman with the best curls.  With 15 curl-vaceous women to choose from, after careful evaluation, Lorraine’s expert eye singled out the curly blonde tresses of single New Yorker Gail Glidewell (33).

“I definitely connected with some women tonight,” says Financier Rob Alder, (33).  “I’d say there were at least 4 women that I would be interested in seeing again.”

For $35, the curly haired women in attendance not only got to meet attractive, professional men, they also were guaranteed that they wouldn’t go home alone.  Every woman left with three bags worth of curly swag from major hair care sponsors like Devachan Salon, Deva Spa, Miss Jessie’s, Christo 5th Avenue, Hercut, BeautyVT and Avon.  Performer, Tauren Hagens (36), a brunette with above the shoulder curls enthused, “I am blown away by tonight! Hot men and free hair care products?  What more could a girl ask for?”

Di Re summarized the success of the evening by stating, “Based on the turn-out, energy and connections I saw tonight, I foresee this becoming one of our more popular events.”

To guarantee a spot at OnSpeedDating.Com’s next event, register for the waitlist at OnSpeedDating.Com. Check out the pics from "Curls Gone Wild" Speed Dating by adding Amber Guesa as a facebook friend.

 

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